October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Join the #ThisIsDV social media campaign, created by our friends at the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence (NRCDV), to help amplify the voices of survivors and help spotlight the realities of domestic violence.

Print and share these #ThisIsDV posters from the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence


In the News: “New campaign targets domestic violence”

TriMet bench in Portland

TriMet bench in Portland

PDX Says NO MORE received some news coverage leading up to National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Read the Lake Oswego Review article HERE. 


NFL’s Wrong Way Run

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How These Young Men Became Allies In Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault Prevention

BY: JESSICA BOYD

In the first week of July, the NFL piloted a peer ambassador program in conjunction with the second year of its ‘On and Off the Field’ football camp, led by NFL alumni and players and in partnership with London-based charity, Hestia, and UK Says No More.

The peer ambassador program was built with Hestia to facilitate more Photo-10-07-2016-11-21-32-1-1024x850long term, in-community support, by empowering young college players with domestic violence and sexual assault (DVSA) and leadership training. Football coaches from local and college teams were asked to nominate players for the peer program. Players were then interviewed and screened. Over three days, the chosen 15 young men, aged 16-24, received DV/SA training structured around the NFL’s four core values of resiliency, respect, integrity and responsibility to team.

With incredible dedication from Lyndsey Dearlove, Hestia’s Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG) Partnership Manager, the DV/SA program grew into an innovative and interactive training program which not only fostered participation, discussion and engagement, but sparked a flame in many of the young men. A light was shone on issues which are commonly left undiscussed and in the dark, such as the pressures of contemporary masculinity, stereotypes and privileges. The young men were keen to engage in discussions around bystander challenges and how to recognize abuse and victims of abuse.

“I’ve learnt things about domestic violence and sexual assault that otherwise I may never have known. It has also opened my eyes further to the stresses experienced as a male, which I have been molded by – but not always knowingly. It has also interested me in learning more about male privilege…[and] how to lessen the stresses experienced by other men by being available for talking without judgement.”

– PEER AMBASSADOR

The newly-trained peer ambassadors then utilized their DV/SA training at the two-day NFL On and Off the Field football camp in the heart of the English countryside, at Royal Holloway University. The camp was designed as a safe space for more than 130 young men aged 16-24 to develop themselves both on and off the field, combining the football skills and personality necessary to be a great player and teammate.


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, camp participants had breakout sessions with NFL players and alumni, such as Indianapolis Colts Andrew Luck, in order to learn from their experiences as pro players. They shared important insights on community and character. This reinforced the message of the DV/SA session where, with the support of Hestia and UK Says No More, the peer ambassadors created awareness around domestic violence and sexual assault amongst 130 of their peers. Alongside Walter Payton Man of the Year nominee, Dwayne Allen and NFL free agent, Efe Obada, the peer ambassadors led intimate and animated conversations.

On the field, participants solidified the team spirit and trust they had built, taking to the field in high intensity drills, skills and combines with NFL coaches and players.

Following the camp, peer ambassadors will take leadership and DV/SA learnings back to their teams and facilitate peer support groups for their team mates. They will act as points of initial contact and support, with access to the Hestia DV/SA app, Bright Sky, and knowledge of who their peers can turn to for further support.


Memphis Says No More Unveils New Bus PSAS

BY: NO MORE STAFF

In Memphis, locals can now see NO MORE PSAs on 20 city buses, thanks to the work of Memphis Says NO MORE and the Memphis Sexual Assault Kit Task Force (SAKT).

Four Memphis Grizzlies players – Tony Allen, Mike Conley, Marc Gasol and Zach Randolph – are shown saying “NO MORE It’s Not My Problem” – on five MATA buses. Zach Randolph also appears on overhead signs inside all 20 buses. The bus signs also guide viewers to the Memphis Says NO MORE website, where survivors can find local resources, as well as other campaign materials and videos.

Memphis Says NO MORE, a project of the Memphis Sexual Assault Kit Task Force, also shines a spotlight on a larger issue: untested sexual assault kits are a national problem. In 2013, the Memphis task force was created to oversee testing of all untested sexual assault kits and to establish policies for prompt testing of new kits. The task force includes representatives of multiple state, county and city offices, as well as community advocates, including the Memphis Area Women’s Council.

Since its creation, the task force has already accomplished a great deal, including:

  • raising $6 million
  • analyzing or shipping 5,986 kits to four labs
  • holding public meetings to update the community, training law enforcement on rape investigation, and advocating for additional investigators and compassionate victim notification

Through Music, Showing The Impact Of Domestic Violence On Children

Nina Paolicelli is a singer with a powerful story. Recently signed with SONY RED, Nina is using her voice to help raise awareness about domestic violence. Her song, “Look,” inspired by her childhood experience of watching the abuse her mother endured, aims to help the public understand how domestic violence impacts victims, as well as their families and loved ones. Here’s the story behind “Look,” as told to NO MORE.

How did you get involved with the issue of domestic violence?

I got involved with the issue of domestic violence through a song I wrote called “Look”. I am beginning to share my story through my music.

Can you tell us a little bit about how you came to make “Look”?

I wrote “Look” about a year ago and built up the courage to record it a few months ago. I felt that sharing my experience would set me free and help others in the process.

What led you to decide to write “Look” from a child’s perspective?

Since I was 5, I had felt a weight on my shoulders. I felt like there was a secret I was keeping. I didn’t quite know the source until I started to write. This song in particular, was extremely therapeutic for me.

Your song, in such a smart and real way, talks about a very common message survivors hear: that they should ignore abuse and instead focus on good things their partner provides (“Yeah, he hurt you, yeah, he pushed you down / But look at what he gave you, don’t be so ungrateful”) – Why do you think people believe this?

I think in today’s world, many people don’t want to believe that something as horrible as domestic violence can happen. Bystanders making excuses for the abuser and/or taking sides is extremely common. More people need to be educated on these topics, even if it makes them uncomfortable.

What do you wish others would have done as you were experiencing this in your home? 

Personally, I didn’t tell anyone what was going on in my home until it wasn’t going on anymore. I thought everything that was happening was normal because that was all I knew. For my mother, I wish that her family would’ve supported her instead of supporting her abuser.

How can others make a difference for domestic violence survivors?

We can help make a difference in domestic violence by believing the victims/survivors which will in turn help them to speak their truth.

 


NFL Players Speak Out in ‘Get Off The Sidelines’ PSA Videos

Watch and share the new series of NO MORE public service announcement (PSA) videos, produced by the NFL and USA Network, features NFL stars — including William Gay (Pittsburgh Steelers), Andrew Hawkins (Cleveland Browns), Mark Herzlich (New York Giants), Ben Watson (New Orleans Saints) and Jason Witten (Dallas Cowboys) – encouraging everyone to “get off the sidelines” to help stop domestic violence and sexual assault.